{"id":7382,"date":"2025-07-28T11:08:29","date_gmt":"2025-07-28T11:08:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/annemiekesemmeling.com\/?p=7382"},"modified":"2025-07-28T11:14:41","modified_gmt":"2025-07-28T11:14:41","slug":"when-the-other-goes-silent-and-you-start-filling-in-the-blanks","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/annemiekesemmeling.com\/en\/2025\/07\/when-the-other-goes-silent-and-you-start-filling-in-the-blanks\/","title":{"rendered":"When the Other Goes Silent and You Start Filling In the Blanks"},"content":{"rendered":"
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In Your Face Ghosting:
<\/span>When the other goes silent<\/i> and you start filling in the blanks.<\/i><\/span><\/span><\/i><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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You\u2019re in conversation, but you feel it happen, the connection fades. The other person says little. Looks away. Falls silent where you expected contact. There\u2019s no movement.<\/span><\/span><\/p>

And you? You start filling in the blanks. You work harder. Try, rescue, push, fix.
Or you feel something break inside. Maybe both.<\/p>

How quickly do you go into judgment, about someone \u2018disengaging’, being \u2018unprofessional\u2019 or \u2018passive\u2019?
How quickly do you fall into your reflex of working harder, correcting, pleasing, pulling back?<\/p>

And what starts moving under the surface, in you?<\/p>

Silence is rarely empty. But what it means is rarely clear.<\/p>

Stepping out of connection can come from a longing for safety. From not having the tools to stay in dialogue. Or from an old pattern that once served a purpose.
Whatever\u2019s behind it \u2014 silence can be painful, unsettling and quietly inviting.<\/p>

If you\u2019re willing to look. And to feel.<\/p>

Leadership in moments like this isn’t about knowing what to do.
It\u2019s about noticing what happens in you when you don\u2019t know.<\/p>

Slowing down before you jump to conclusions or take action.<\/p>

Do you notice how quickly you move into judgment or reflex when the other goes silent?<\/p>

Get in touch. I\u2019ll send you a set of reflective questions and practical perspectives to help you stay grounded and in charge. Even when connection gets lost.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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